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Divorce after 35 years of marriage

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An elderly man in Jakarta calls his son in New York and says, ’I hate to ruin your day son, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are getting a divorce ’35 years of marriage… and that much misery is enough!’

‘Dad, what are you talking about?’ the son screams.

‘We can’t stand the sight of each other any longer,’ the old man says.

‘We’re sick of each other, and I’m sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Hong Kong and tell her!’

Frantic, the son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone.

‘Like heck they’re getting divorced,’ she shouts, ‘I’ll take care of this.’

She calls Mumbai immediately, and screams at the old man, ‘You are not getting divorced.
Don’t do a single thing until I get there. I’m calling my brother back, and we’ll both be there tomorrow.
Until then , don’t do a thing, DO YOU HEAR??’ and she hangs up.

The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife. ‘Okay’, he says, ‘It’s all set.
They’re both coming for our anniversary and paying their own airfare!!’

MORAL:

  • No man / woman is busy in this world all 365 days.
  • The sky is not going to fall down if you take few days LEAVE and meet your dear ones..
  • OFFICE WORK IS NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE and MONEY MAKING IS NOT EVERYTHING IN LIFE.

What is SEACHANGE?

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SEACHANGE is an ongoing movement connecting Southeast Asian Youths to projects, organizations, businesses, and leaders who can help them with the change they want to see!

The result?

A connected ecosystem for change involving 1 Million youths and the campaigns and organizations which matter.

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How Does it Work?

Phase 1 ~ From now till November 16th, 2009
The focus in on our first initiative, the SEACHANGE Youth Report.This gathers the voice of 1 million youths across Southeast Asia to answer 3 questions:

  1. What change do you want to see in your own personal life?
  2. What change do you want to see in your community and country?
  3. What ideas of campaigns or programmes would you support?

The result?

A first-of-its-kind youth initiated public report presented to every leader in business, government and media out there for them to know what change each segment of youth wants to see… and how to help them.

This report is also presented at the Youth Engagement Summit 2009 YES2009. YES2009 is giving youths who participate in the Youth Report up to 500 free trips to the Summit. Read about it here http://indonesia.youthsays.com/seachange/go/vBm

Help us reach 1 million youths to generate the report. Do the survey now on http://indonesia.youthsays.com/seachange/go/vBm

Phase 2 ~ Ongoing change

Based on the youth report
  1. The 1 million youths who participated in the Youth Report will be connected via specific online forums based on the change they care about (personal and/or community)
  2. Organizations/ businesses / campaigns can engage in direct conversation via these forums, and promote relevant change campaigns to youths who care
Next initiatives to be announced at a later date. Don’t forget to bookmark this blog and spread the word!!!

YES 2009 Term and Condition

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What exactly am I winning?

  • Return airfare from the Southeast Asian country of origin.
  • Accommodation for 4 days 3 nights (15th November 2009 ~ 18th November 2009)
  • Summit pass to the Youth Engagement Summit 2009
  • A priceless experience to meet fellow youths from the region, business leaders, and global change icons!

Who is eligible to win?

  • Youths between the ages of 18 to 35 from Southeast Asia.
  • The youth must have completed the survey needed for the SEACHANGE Youth Report.

What do you mean by youths? I am quite young looking, does that count?

  • Youths are defined to be between the age of 18 to 35 / born between 1991 and 1974.

Southeast Asia? Which are the eligible Southeast Asian countries?

Permanent residents of

  • Brunei
  • Burma (Myanmar)
  • Cambodia
  • Indonesia
  • Laos
  • Malaysia
  • Philippines
  • Singapore
  • Thailand
  • Vietnam

How about foreign students or foreign nationals in Southeast Asia? For example, foreign students?

You have to be a permanent resident of the country.

How are you going to choose the winners?

You can win by:

  1. Filling in the survey.
  2. By inviting your friends into the movement! Once you’ve signed up, you’ll have your unique invite link for your friends to click on. Your chances of winning will be based on your friends’ sign up for SEACHANGE. Don’t worry, we’ll be tracking your invite traffic ;)
  3. Join the contests organized to increase your chances of winning – tweet more, tag more and post more :D

Are there quotas for each country?

No. However, countries who have more submissions to the SEACHANGE survey are likely to have more youths represented.

What if I won, and I cannot make it for the FREE TRIP?

You cannot sell the trip, transfer the prize to someone else, or exchange it for money. Just let us know you cannot make it, and we will give it to someone else.

When are you going to announce the results?

All results will be announced by November 1st via email. If no answer is received by then the winning trip will be given to someone else.

Great, now how do I win this?

Go to http://indonesia.youthsays.com/seachange/go/vBm to fill out the survey to produce the SEACHANGE Youth Report.

Second Life for Newbie

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From the official Second Life tips blog…. :) It is for personal use.. :)

  1. Nobody can ‘kill’ your avatar. If you happen to be in one of the rare ‘damage-enabled’ zones, the only thing that will happen if your avatar loses all health (which it only has in those rare damage-enabled areas) is that you will be teleported to wherever your Home location is set.

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  1. f anyone tells you they are ‘a Linden’ or that they work for ‘the Lindens’ or for Second Life, unless they have the SURNAME of ‘Linden’ and their profile (right-click on them and select ‘profile’) has, under the ‘Account’ section, the words ‘Linden Lab Employee’ – they are LYING.
  2. If you feel at all uncomfortable, then simply teleport away. Same thing if you are being hassled or griefed: simply teleport away.
  3. The first place you teleport to after leaving Help Island when you first arrive will be the place that is set as your Home location, until you change it. You can only set your Home location at a Linden Lab infohub, or to certain areas in certain groups that allow it when you are a member of that group. eg: if you join the New Citizens Inc (NCI) group – a newbie-helping organisation – you can set your Home to one of their campuses. (Eloise also points out in comments that you can set your Home to any land that you own, and you can also set it to land that you rent, assuming your rental group allows this – which most do.)
  4. Following on from #3 and #4 the quickest way to teleport to your Home location is the keyboard shortcut CTRL + SHIFT + H.
  5. Many of the Welcome Areas (which are where you will land when you leave Help Island, and which will be set as your Home location) contain griefers (people who get their kicks from harrassing newbies). Try to find an alternate home, such as NCI or ‘Help People!’ as soon as you can, to re-set your Home location (you will usually have to join their groups before being able to set their locations as your Home spot). That said, some of the bigger Welcome Areas are worse for griefing than others. When leaving Help Island, keep clicking that ‘Ready to start your Second Life?’ sign until you have several landmarks for locations. Discard the ones for Ahern and Waterhead, as those are two of the worst for griefing. Quieter locations, such as Ambat, are preferable.
  6. Ladies, be aware that choosing a female avatar will make many men gravitate toward you, even on Help Island just seconds after you first arrive in Second Life. It can be unnerving to try to learn a whole new online experience with some guy insistently chatting to you and asking you where you’re from, what your real name is, etc. Two ways to avoid this are: simply tell him to go away, and to pick a male avatar when you first register (you can always change this to a female one at any time later on, using the shapes in your Inventory’s Library folder). Most people don’t check the names above other’s heads when they first arrive, but they are drawn to a female shape. Having a male shape will enable you to get through those first few hours without feeling hassled.
  7. Be wary of offers that you receive for items and group invitations, especially those that are sitting and waiting for you the minute you first appear in Second Life. The only offers you should consider accepting at first are ones that are clearly from people such as the ‘Help People!’ institute, official Second Life Mentors, and the NCI people. Use your common sense. Some people think it’s fun to grief newbies by offering them something that will do something stupid.
  8. A ‘relog’ (logging out of second Life and then back in again) will fix any griefing problems.
  9. You don’t have to do anything in Second Life that you don’t want to.
  10. If you come across red lines saying ‘NO ENTRY’ or you’re bounced away from somewhere or get sent a blue dropdown flag saying you have tried to enter a banned area, don’t take it personally. People value their privacy in SL, and can set their land to bar entry to everyone except themselves or their friends if they wish.
  11. Following on from #11, please respect the fact that most of the homes you see in Second Life will belong to someone. While there are some people who don’t mind others walking around their homes (especially if they themselves aren’t online) others will view it in a manner similar to an intrusion in their real life homes. ESPECIALLY do not walk into someone’s home if they are there and with friends or a lover. If you do blunder in and are asked to leave, apologise and make a quick exit.
  12. Following on from 11 and 12, DON’T use the poseballs you find in someone else’s home. That’s about as rude as shagging in their real life bed. Just don’t do it.
  13. Child avatars aren’t perverts or underage users. Many people wearing child avatars enjoy the innocence of being a kid again. Don’t be too hasty to abuse report them as underage, because you could quite literally ruin their Second Life. If you’re hasty to abuse report someone for being a pervert, you could well ruin their real life, too. You should only abuse report that if you see someone clearly roleplaying a sexual situation between an adult and a child avatar (and even then, be aware that many people in Second Life have young-looking avatars but are not child avatars). The only ‘ageplay’ that is banned in Second Life is sexual ageplay; not simply making your avatar younger than you actually are in real life.
  14. That said, don’t be afraid to abuse report people who are harrassing or griefing you. The worst thing you can do in these situations is retaliate, as often a griefer will hassle you to try and get you to retaliate, at which point he will abuse report YOU.
  15. It’s very likely that, at some point, you will receive the following message in a blue dropdown menu, completely out of the blue:
    You don’t have to say ‘yes’. Bloodlines is a pyramid ‘roleplay’ scheme and it annoys a lot of residents. The vampires use a HUD that scans an area and tells them who has not yet been bitten. They tend to hang out in newbie areas, because most newbies won’t understand the offer and are more likely to click ‘yes’. If you are bitten, or have been bitten, then you are not automatically a vampire. You don’t have to play along. You especially don’t need to buy any kind of potion to ‘heal’ yourself.

    When you are bitten, your avatar name is entered on a database held at the Bloodlines site. It lists your ‘soul’ as ‘belonging’ to whichever vampire avatar bit you. If you have been bitten, you will no longer register as a potential victim to any other vampire on their HUD. If you don’t want to be a potential victim, there is a FREE (never pay for it anywhere; it’s offered free at a lot of places*) ‘garlic necklace’ that you can obtain in-world, wear once, and then discard. This will add your avatar name to another database that means the Bloodlines HUD will disregard you as a potential victim, as though you were bitten.

  16. The ‘mute’ button is your friend. If someone is harrassing you, either right-click on their avatar and select ‘mute’ or search for their profile and click ‘mute’ on that.
  17. Torley Linden’s video tutorials are absolutely invaluable. Make sure you watch as many as you can.
  18. The official forums are a great starting point if you have any questions, especially the Resident Answers sub-forum. Be prepared, though, to have your thread derailed. It’s sort of a tradition there ;) Also, be wary of asking questions or making outraged posts about: Gor, furries, or child avatars. These threads come up very often, so try searching the forum first. Especially do not bug the Resident Answers people to take any surveys you’re doing. If you ignore that last bit of advice, on your own head be it ;)
  19. One for the guys: don’t bug every female you see for sex. Especially don’t attach your ‘freenis’ (freebie penis) and run around everywhere. You WILL get laughed at.
  20. If you’re freebie-hunting, remember your manners. Don’t like a freebie that a store owner has placed out? Don’t bitch about it, and don’t bug the store owner to give you a different version, or one in another colour. You got it for FREE, and they didn’t have to offer it at all. Just delete it from your inventory if you don’t like it, and move on.
  21. Don’t beg. It’s lame. There are few quicker ways to getting banned from groups and muted by large amounts of people, as asking them for “just 10L$ so I can upload a profile picture”.
  22. The easiest way to ‘get money’ is to register a credit card or Paypal account at the official Second Life website. If you can’t use or obtain a credit card, many countries have pre-paid credit cards you can buy.
  23. There is no ‘get rich quick’ scheme in Second Life. You won’t be able to earn enough money to give up your real life job. There are very, very few people in Second Life in that situation. Also, people with ‘click me for free lindens’ hovertext above their heads, or the ‘earn lindens fast!’ websites are mainly scams, especially trying to harvest email addresses for spammers. Use your common sense. If it seems too good to be true, then it probably IS.
  24. Lag is a part of Second Life, and we all hate it. There are alternate viewers you can use, and tips and tricks you can try that will reduce the lag a bit. Search the official forums for hints about those.
  25. When you’re getting changed, you don’t need to undress fully before getting dressed again. Clothing in Second Life comes on layers (undershirt, shirt, jacket, etc) so if you’re at all embarrassed about getting changed you can do the old ‘putting on your swimming cossie at the beach’ trick, akin to wriggling around under a towel. Want to change your shirt? Put on a jacket first, then change the shirt underneath it, then remove the jacket. And so on. (Read more on this subject at the bottom of the post: comment #33, suggested by Mitch Wagner.)
  26. A ‘yellow dropdown flag’ (as opposed to the blue ones you will encounter) is a money debit warning. If you receive one of these, think twice before clicking ‘yes’, as doing so will give whatever object it came from permission to take money out of your L$ balance.
  27. Not everybody wants a massive friends list, or to be chatted to by all and sundry. If you get talking to someone, or ask them a question and receive an answer, don’t just send them a friend offer out of the blue. Ask them first if they mind being friended, and don’t be offended if you’re turned down. Also, don’t be offended if someone accepts your friendship offer, then a few days later their name vanishes from your friends list. This most likely means they accepted because they either: didn’t want to hurt your feelings, felt awkward about saying ‘no’, or simply changed their mind about your friendship, and removed you from their friends list. If this happens, don’t send the offer again.
  28. Don’t be surprised if the female avatar you really fancy turns out to be played by a man (or the male avatar you fancy turns out to be played by a woman). People gender-swap in Second Life more often than you might think. So don’t assume anything (like you wouldn’t assume that the cute little bunny rabbit you’re talking to is a REAL bunny rabbit). Having said that, though, please don’t demand that every avatar you’re interested in ‘voices’ with you (uses the voice chat facility) to ‘prove’ they’re the gender they say they are. You’ll offend them, and what you hear might not be them anyway (voice-changing software is freely available, and is very effective at making a male sound female and vice-versa).
  29. I’ve left what’s probably the most important thing until last. Please, remember that behind that other avatar is a real life person. A human being with feelings and emotions just like you.
  30. If you take snapshots, create Objects and take them into inventory, or upload textures – be sure to give them meaningful names at the time of creation. And if something has a name that is not helpful or descriptive, rename it to something that makes sense to you. (Suggested by Crap Mariner.)
  31. Don’t get offended or mad at someone if they won’t share their RL info with you. Many people come to SL to run around as the person/avie/whatever they are. Some consider their RL info very personal. When they’re ready to share, they will. (Suggested by Dakota Rosca.)
  32. Further to being embarrassed while changing clothing:
    1. Find the items you want to wear in your inventory. Right-click and select “wear.”The new item will replace whatever you’re currently wearing in that place.
      After you’ve done that with everything you want to wear, you’l be wearing your new outfit and avatar plus a couple of pieces of the old one.
    2. Click on the search field at the top of your inventory. Enter the text “worn” The search results will be everything you’re currently wearing.
    3. Right click and remove anything you don’t want to be wearing.
      If you already know what you want to wear, changing clothes or avatars using this method takes less time to do than it took you to read this comment. And you can do it anywhere, without ever making an unseemly show of flesh. (Suggested by Mitch Wagner.)
  33. Don’t dismiss the idea of joining a group. Even while flying solo in the Metaverse I have my group chat window open to keep up with people that share my interests. Groups are time savers when you are looking for specific answers, places or products, and you can always close the window if they get too chatty. (Suggested by xannaziskey.)
  34. Join the Fashion Emergency group, whether you care about fashion or not. A very well run free group that can usually help with just about anything. You will save enormous amounts of time shopping. (Suggested by xannaziskey.)
  35. Best money to spend on updating appearance? Skin. Hair. These are the most difficult items to find free in good quality, although the Fashion Emergency group can probably tell you if there are special offers about. (Suggested by xannaziskey.)
  36. You CANNOT get locked inside a house, cage or otherwise. If you find yourself seemingly trapped, simply teleport away. If teleports are down, log out. (Suggested by Dazz Anvil.)
  37. Better than search for worn [to find things you're wearing] is searching for (worn – that gets rid of those items with a “worn” in their description. (Suggested by Angel.)
  38. Further to cages, tps being down etc. If you want to get away and back in somewhere else, start Second Life, go to Edit–>Preferences and check “Show Start Location on Login Screen” you then get a drop-down box and can choose home or another location (e.g. a sim by name) and you will log in there. (Suggested by Eloise.)
  39. You don’t have to move your avatar to get a closer look at things. Use “Camera Controls” from the View menu – and practice with them until you’ve got them mastered. It’s a much faster way to browse big walls of stuff in stores. (Suggested by Tara Yeats.)
  40. If you use a Mac for SL, join the group “Macintosh Users” – it’s the go-to resource for Mac-specific SL issues (and they’re are lots of them).

EDIT: My God, I can’t keep up with you all! OK, to anyone coming in and reading this now, please check the comments section for further useful tips. :)

Five Blogging Techniques

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When someone first discovers your blog, it’s much like that awkward first date. Will they like your appearance, do they find you interesting, and did you remember to brush your teeth? As a blogger, your goal is to demonstrate that you’re worthy of a second date and perhaps even marriage–or at least worth subscribing to your RSS feed.

To convince your readers that you’re worth their effort, you need to make a great first impression. Your blogging reputation may not proceed you, but there are five rules that every blogger should follow–if you want to make a great first impression and grow your audience.

Rule 1: Dress Your Blog to Impress

That free WordPress theme you’re using on your blog might be enough to impress a few readers, but if it’s the same theme used by dozens of other blogs, you’ll blend into the crowd. Just as you’d consider a new suit a great investment for impressing your date, you should consider a custom design a great investment for your blog.

When I first started Yohanes.BudiLelono.web.id, I used a really bad off-the-shelf theme. Two years ago, I invested in a custom designed sNews theme. Did it help me dress to impress? Within one month of launching the new design I doubled the number of RSS subscribers and attracted new advertisers–which more than paid for the cost of the theme.

Rule 2: Mind Your Blog Language

Blogging lends itself well to a casual attitude. What does it matter if you don’t spell-check your post? Why worry if you happen to insert an expletive here or there? Well, if you were to turn-up to your first date and subsequently cuss throughout dinner, or utter sentences such as “I is very smart,” what do you think you chances would be of getting a second date?

You should understand that the voice and style you use in your blog posts, reflects on your blogging reputation. Whether you’re hoping to land that new job, attract new advertisers, or just want to increase the number of people that link to you posts, you’ll be judged by what you say in your blog posts.

Rule 3: Always Bring a Gift

If you want to make a great first impression, bring a gift on your date. Likewise, if you want to build your reputation as blogger, you should shower your readers with gifts. Now, I don’t mean you have to give away an iPod every week–although I’ve certainly gained readers with such promotions–but you can give them ideas, tips, and insight that they can’t find anywhere else.

Rule 4: Listen as Much as You Talk

Do you know what happens if you spend your entire date talking about yourself? You don’t get a second date! The same is true with your blog. Sure, your readers want to hear your advice, thoughts, and opinions, but you’ll build your reputation as a blogger by learning to listen to them.

I know what you’re thinking: “readers are free to leave their comments.” Whoopdedo! Do you actually read their comments? How about responding to them? I make a point of reading every comment left on my blog. If a reader has taken the time to share their thoughts, you might just learn something from them. Go one step further and engage them in a conversation, and you’ll build a reputation of being a fantastic blogger.

Rule 5: Don’t Let the Flame Burn Out

What do you think would happen if you went on a dozen great dates, then didn’t phone the object of your affection for two months? Do you think they’d readily come back to you? So why would you blog consistently for a month, then not update you blog for 8 weeks?

If you post once a day–or once a month–they’ll get used to that schedule. Stick to it! Nothing kills a romance faster than ignoring your amore’s phone calls, and nothing kills your blogging reputation faster than going quiet without an explanation.

Of course, like a romantic relationship, blog relationships take more than just making a great first impression.

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